If you plan it, they will come — in droves.
“There’s no in-between when it’s an industry wedding,” says ICM agent Nicole Clemens. “You can either have it in Mexico with 45 people or in L.A. with 400.”
Clemens should know. Only 45 guests will be on hand at her destination wedding in Cabo San Lucas on June 24. “The chapel is tiny, so I had to keep it to close friends and family,” she says of the quaint Mexican church at the One&Only Palmilla resort, a favorite wedding spot among entertainment types. “I hope no one gets mad at me.”
Having a destination wedding is one way to avoid the social toe-stub of excluding certain people. “People don’t get their feelings hurt if they’re not invited to a wedding in Florence,” says event planner Yifat Oren. Santa Barbara and the Napa Valley, on the other hand, are too close for comfort. “It’s not far away enough,” she says. “You have to go out of state, at least.”
When producer Robbie Brenner and her husband married at the Rockhouse Hotel in Negril, Jamaica, last July, they had an attachment to the area — her husband’s family owns a house there. Still, tying the knot so far from L.A. ensured that she knew each of her 100 guests. “I can look at my wedding pictures 25 years from now and identify everyone,” says Brenner.
Venue ennui, a.k.a. “the ho-hum factor,” is another reason to take the show on the road. “You don’t want to have your wedding at the Paramour Estate and have people tell you that they went to the ‘Sleepy Hollow’ premiere party there,” says Oren.
Getting out of dodge also forces type-A guests to put down the BlackBerry and take in the scenery. “We have a white-water rafting trip and horseback riding planned,” says producer Damien Saccani of his upcoming destination wedding for 85 in Jackson Hole, Wyo. “It’s easier for industry people to relax outside of L.A.”
The Preferred Hitching Post
The One&Only Palmilla, Cabo San Lucas, Mexico; Oneandonlypalmilla.com
How Low Can You Go?
Chapel holds 45, but the hotel can host 250 people in a beach ceremony. For $12,000, the “Chapel Wedding Package for Two” includes horse-drawn carriage, beachside candlelit dinner, spa pampering and four nights’ stay.