In Gonen Glaser’s award-winning documentary, “It Will End Up in Tears,” a lovable and loving Israeli family of Argentinean descent is forced to come to terms with the lesbianism of their 21-year-old daughter Maria. In its broad topic and meditation on conventions of masculinity and femininity in a conservative society, this charming docu belongs to the coming-out genre, which is rather new in Israel.
The marvel of Glaser’s approach is its nonjudgmental tone, giving each member of the Talpalar clan a unique voice, including Maria’s oldest, most macho brother, who claims authoritatively that “one can’t compare a woman’s love to that of a man.” However, the most interesting figures are the parents. Beatrice is torn between her maternal instincts to defend her child and the difficulty of accepting the fact that Maria is lesbian and won’t have children. But Maria’s father undergoes the most radical change, from believing that his daughter “is doing something suicidal” to claiming that he needs more time to think about it. In the midst of it all, Maria herself experiences doubts not so much about her sexual identity as about her future.