Alexis Arquette, Actress and Sister to Patricia and David Arquette, Dies at 47

Alexis Arquette Dead
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UPDATED: Transgender actress Alexis Arquette died Sunday morning, her brother Richmond Arquette revealed in a Facebook post. She was 47.

“Our brother Robert, who became our brother Alexis, who became our sister Alexis, who became our brother Alexis, passed this morning September 11, at 12:32 am,” Richmond wrote. “He was surrounded by all of his brothers and sisters, one of his nieces and several other loved ones. We were playing music for him and he passed during David Bowie’s Starman. As per his wishes, we cheered at the moment that he transitioned to another dimension.”

A cause of death has not been yet released. Later on Sunday, Alexis’ siblings Rosanna, Richmond, Patricia and David Arquette issued a statement about the news, calling her a “brilliant artist and painter, a singer, an entertainer and an actor.”

“Her career was cut short, not by her passing, but by her decision to live her truth and her life as a transgender woman,” the statement says. “Despite the fact that there are few parts for trans actors, she refused to play roles that were demeaning or stereotypical. She was a vanguard in the fight for understanding and acceptance for all trans people. She fiercely lived her reality in a world where it is dangerous to be a trans person — a world largely unready to accept differences among human beings, and where there is still the ugliness of violence and hostility towards people that we may not understand.”

“Alexis was born as Robert, our brother,” the statement goes on. “We loved him the moment he arrived. But he came in as more than a sibling — he came as our great teacher. As Alexis transitioned into being a woman, she taught us tolerance and acceptance. As she moved through her process, she became our sister, teaching us what real love is. We learned what real bravery is through watching her journey of living as a trans woman. We came to discover the one truth — that love is everything. In the days leading to her death, she told us she was already visiting the other side, and that where she was going, there was only one gender. That on the other side, we are free from all of the things that separate us in this life, and that we are all one.”

Patricia also paid tribute to Alexis by tweeting David Bowie’s “Starman” and T. Rex’s “Cosmic Dancer.”

“Breaking through the veil singing Starman,” Patricia captioned one tweet. “To My first best friend – Cosmic Dancer,” she wrote with the other.

“I am feeling immense gratitude to have been afforded the luxury of sharing life with him/her, for learning from Alexis, for being given the gift of being able to love him/her and to be loved by him/her. He was a force,” Richmond added in the Facebook post. “He died as he lived, on his own terms. I am immensely grateful that it was fast and painless. It was an incredibly moving experience and I am humbled and grateful to have been able to have been with him as he began his journey onward. Thank you, Alexis, I love you and will love you always.”

Born Robert Arquette, Alexis started acting at a young age and nabbed a variety of roles over her career. She played a Boy George-inspired character in “The Wedding Singer,” and also appeared in “Of Men and Mice,” “Bride of Chucky,” “The Surreal Life,” “Down and Out in Beverly Hills” and most recently in 2014’s “Blended” alongside Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore.

Alexis came from a long line of actors. Her grandfather Cliff Arquette and father Lewis Arquette were prominent character actors.

Alexis’ transition into a woman was documented in 2007’s “Alexis Arquette: She’s My Brother.”

Boy George also paid tribute to the late actress on Sunday, writing on Twitter, “R.I.P my sister Alexis Arquette. Another bright light gone out far too soon. Love to the family and all that loved Alexis.”

The family asks that in lieu of flowers or gifts, donations be sent to organizations that support the LGBTQ community in honor of Alexis Arquette.

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  1. Anthony Dabiere says:

    Alexis was somebody I knew in Hollywood, and had the chance to see in everyday settings. I once even put on a yard sale for her in Hollywood, and for the day, the tour busses re-routed their busses, and brought the tourists to own their very own piece of Tinsel Town history. She was kind, soft spoken, and thoughtful, so unlike the very big public persona that she displayed time and time again to the glitterati. A funny, funny individual with whom I have several personal and fond memories. With out a doubt, a trail blazer who never stopped, and one who was ready with a comeback before any statement had even been said. A true professional, and family-proud person, she gave new meaning to some, and new life to others. It is people like Alexis that will never know the scope of their impact, perhaps now she is in a place where she can see, at least a little bit more.

  2. Robin says:

    Why do so many people read into what people say at the moment the are mourning a loss. Let’s put your comments on trial the moment you start talking.’

  3. “You see the size of that gun he fired at us? It was bigger than him.” RIP.

  4. Vivian Joynt says:

    She was a wonderful actor. A very brave person who lived her life in the face, of ignorance, with grace and courage. So sad to hear of her passing. My thoughts are with her family and friends. RIP Alexis.

  5. Dragonsfly says:

    I feel sad for this quote “Our brother Robert, who became our brother Alexis, who became our sister Alexis, who became our brother Alexis,…” She was their sister, Alexis was never their brother. It’s a shame they couldn’t see it.

    • Wagnerian says:

      That’s not for you to decide, Dragonsfly. I doubt they are misgendering her.

    • KB says:

      I read someone said not that long ago, that Alexis identified as gender suspicious.

    • realbkW says:

      This comment struck me as odd. Did Richmond not accept Alexis’ transition as a trans woman? If it was an issue for him, why was he given the responsibility of being the spokesperson, announcing her passing? Or is that the way Alexis wanted the announcement made? It just seems, well, weird. Also, why did so many outlets ignore Roseanna when making the announcement that “Alexis Arquette, sister of Patricia and David, passed…” I haven’t followed the family closely, so don’t know what the family dynamic is, but the way the announcement is being handled just leads to many questions, it seems.

  6. Jeanne Longo says:

    Rip-Alexis Arquette…It isn’t any of our jobs, as humans, on this earth to judge…God IS THE ONLY JUDGE…Sending prayers to Alexis’s family and friends who must be hurting right now…

  7. Lisa says:

    Rest in peace. If only we could all live our lives with such authenticity, this world would be a much brighter loving place.

  8. KB says:

    I really liked Alexis, and am heartbroken that she passed. I hope that whatever she died from, that she didn’t suffer. May she rest in peace.

  9. Mark says:

    So very sad. Rest in Peace, and my condolences to her loved ones.

  10. I could not find any profile for Richmond Arquette in Facebook.

  11. JR says:

    I wonder what the one gender on the other side is.

  12. alex says:

    why not just say our sibling Alexis?

    • Jen says:

      He’s not saying that to identify Alexis as a sibling. He’s saying that to tell Alexis’s story in a just few words. Those few words show Alexis’s journey from start to finish even if they don’t show you the steps he took.

  13. BillUSA says:

    Don’t people pay attention in biology class?

    Once a boy, always a boy.
    Once a girl, always a girl.
    Still, my condolences to his family.

    • realbkw says:

      I don’t think they need or want your insincere, worthless, hollow “condolences”. If you showed a little understanding and compassion, maybe people would be more open to your sympathy.

    • Dragonsfly says:

      Because gender exists hard wired in the mind and not in genitalia.

    • Erin R says:

      Oh, look at the big brain on Bill! So let’s get this straight, you clicked on the article with the specific intent of coming to the comment section to spout your worthless opinion? Feel better now? How much of a dark hole does your psyche and soul live in? Why don’t you take a deep long look at your life, your thought process and your personality and try and find the source of your bile and hatred. Seriously, seek therapy, after a few sessions you’ll be incredibly surpised at the relief and progress.

    • CNU says:

      He has just passed away. Show some decorum and save bile for another day.

    • The world has grown since you last took a biology class, Bill. There is a new approach to gender and non-binary thinking. You may not like, agree or understand the complexity of gender but that does not excuse your horrible response to another human’s life passing. I hope you have many people who will honor and respect your life when you pass on, others aren’t so fortunate. Empathy and compassion are what will help change our world and that is every humans responsibility.

    • Dunstan says:

      Bill, totally uncalled for. If you have nothing nice to say, keep your pie hole shut.

  14. Andy Martin says:

    She was a rude and obnoxious person. Sorry I’m not going to lie just because she passed on.

  15. mstrainjr says:

    “Our brother Robert, who became our brother Alexis, who became our sister Alexis, who became our brother Alexis, passed this morning September 11, at 12:32 am…”

    This sounds like a joke, like something from The Onion. Either that, or Richmond is being a bit disrespectful to his dead sibling. It’s just how this comes off, unless it was meant to be funny because it was a joke amongst all of them.

    • Jen says:

      I’m sure he’s referencing the fact that after Alexis came out as a woman, he came out as a man. It was some time after his Surreal Life stint. It didn’t get as much media attention as his initial transition, though. I don’t want to say he went back on his transition, it’s more like he started defining it differently. He stopped identifying as a woman and instead chose to redefine what being a man meant to him. He was a man who lived in a way that most would say made him a woman. He didn’t. I remember Alexis linking this thinking to his decision not to undergo sex reassignment surgery. He was no less a woman because he was a man with a penis.

  16. joy karen says:

    I am truly feeling such sadness which, according to her wishes, was not requested. I know they each cheered when she made her transition, but I still feel terrible just about this. That entire family just felt like they were all my own family. RIP Alexis.

  17. Alex Meyer says:

    So sad. My heart goes out to her family.

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