The following two letters were in response to Peter Bart’s column “China keeps a wary lid on its pop culture,” which was datelined Beijing and ran in the Oct. 4 issue.
To The Editor:
If you guys think the Chinese “sell” their daughters to Westerners, then you obviously don’t know much about the complicated social situation in China. Your article was inaccurate as well as hurtful to adoptive parents and their children. And it is terribly belittling to the Chinese citizens, who often make very difficult decisions when faced with situations that Americans couldn’t even imagine.
By the way, parents in America spend countless thousands of dollars per child on modern medical expertise and sometimes even infertility treatments. Does that mean they “bought” their children? How about people in the U.S. who pay medical and other expenses for birthmothers who are often poor/very young as part of domestic adoptions. Did they “buy” their children?
(White signs himself “the proud father of Natalie Grace Zihui White, who became a U. S. citizen on Jan. 20, 2004.”)
To the Editor:
Maybe in a perfect world children would stay with their biological parents, but the fact is, in China and in other places, there are many orphaned children who need families of their own and many families who want children, some who at the same time would like to provide a home for a child who doesn’t have much of a future.
And most of the money I paid in China goes to the children’s orphanages. Since Americans began adopting Chinese children, the care and quality of life in Chinese orphanages has improved dramatically.
I am a single mother and spent my last dime last year to adopt my second child, a 6.8-year-old girl deemed to have “moderate to severe special needs.” I also adopted a beautiful baby 6.3 years ago.
I work from home and home-school them. I am not a rich Westerner who bought a child. I live from check to check, I pour my whole life and being into my children. My children are my heart, NOT a purchase.
(Johnson signs herself as “the loving mother to Lily and Jing-Jing.”)